Thursday, December 29, 2011

Would you be "the homewrecker"?

I could never be "that" person. I could never be the homewrecker. I could never have it in me to destroy a family or a relationship. To destroy trust. To destroy part of a happy heart. Yet again, if the relationship was so perfect why was there a need to run to the homewrecker? Why was there a need for deceit, for pain, for confusion? However that is not my point.

I will never understand why a person cheats. And why there are people out there that condone this. Not meaning the people that somehow, in a subconcious way, allow or play a part in their significant other straying yet meaning the people on the other side. The ones that know they are helping this person cheat. The ones that push for this, because that's exactly what they are doing when they help another person cheat. What runs through their head? Is it the thrill? What do they think about at night when they are in the final stages of drifting off to sleep? What do they seek? Is it that they want attention? If so, why not seek a genuine relationship like a normal sane person? Don't they feel guilty? Don't they think about this person's children, if the have any? What about if this person is married? Don't they respect that enough to back away? An even more significant question is, what about the person that is being cheated on and the fact that they would have to bare this, isn't that enough to sit back and think about exactly what it is what they are doing?

And the person that is cheating... What EXACTLY runs through their head? If anything at all runs through it. My biggest question is why cheat? Why not be selfless and tell their significant other that the relationship no longer satisfies their need? Why not be a MAN or WOMAN and speak up, communicate? Or plain and simple let the relationship go with unspoken words. That would actually be easier in the long run to the person that is going to be cheated on or that is being cheated on. They might not understand it at that exact moment but believe me that later on they will. They will see that the relationship they were in wasn't worth it. That they are better off without this person and their deceitful ways. That one day they will find someone who meets their needs and loves them and wants nothing but the best for them.

I have been on the other side. I have been cheated on and I could tell you all the questions that ran through my head through that phase of my life. I could tell you in how much pain and confusion I was in during this time. I could tell you all of the endless questions I asked myself at night before going to sleep. I could tell you how I blamed myself day in and night out every day for 2 years of my life. I could tell you how I tired to hold on to my failing relationship, or relationSHIT per say, even though I knew exactly what was going on. I can confide in you and tell you, SPECIFICALLY, every single thing I felt, thought, did, acted on, held in, kept a secret, cried about, yelled about, talked about, but the past is the past and it is the past for a reason.

Now back to the people that cause the above things, WHY? Don't they think about these things? Don't they put themselves in these shoes? Don't they think, "what if this was me that was being cheated on, how would I feel"?

Ladies and gentlemen if you find yourself in this predicament, WALK AWAY! If he or she cheats with you he or she will cheat on you! As simple as that. If this person truly wanted to be with you they wouldn't find the need to sneak behind their significant other's back to be with you. The more we condone this in this society the more screwed up it will be in the future. Act the way you would like a man or a woman to treat your future daughter or son. Believe it or not, what goes around comes BACK AROUND! XO!

xSigned___JNF. ♥

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